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Evan S. Kurtz
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Posted: 20 September 2026 at 12:56pm | IP Logged | 1 post reply

Rather than risk more thread drift in the Wildwood thread in the movies sub forum, I thought I should do the responsible thing and just post a topic about it. 

There's something of an urban legend that Socrates once said, "The children now love luxury; they have bad manners, contempt for authority; they show disrespect for elders and love chatter in place of exercise. Children are now tyrants, not the servants of their households. They no longer rise when elders enter the room. They contradict their parents, chatter before company, gobble up dainties at the table, cross their legs, and tyrannize their teachers." 

According to one source, the actual source of that quote is derived from a dissertation published in 1907 by Cambridge University student Kenneth John Freeman, who was in fact presenting in his own words a summary of complaints from various sources in ancient times. In other words, it wasn't Socrates who said it, but there is some evidence the sentiment was truly expressed by the elders of Ancient Greece. 

The reason I bring that up is because I have always known it's a cyclical, generational occurrence: the old lamenting the failures of the young to uphold the ways of our civilization. Kids haven't actually gotten worse. They've always been ... well, kids.

Still, as someone who has worked directly with well over 500 kids in my 16 year career, and has interacted regularly with more than a thousand of them, I see things that have changed from when I started my career to today. Modern kids' vocabularies are shockingly bad. A surprising number of them have attention spans you would attribute to someone with ADHD. I believe it's a direct result of parents using screens as to distract them and babysit them, kind of like how my parents plopped me down in front of a TV in the 80's and let me watch cartoons until my heart's content. 

The reason I think it's worse now than ever, though, is because of computer algorithms, which by design provide kids with short 10-60 second flashy, colourful, funny diversions and mute their imagination by never making them feel bored or think about what they'd like to look at. The only thing TikTok wants to do is to get kids to spend more time on TikTok today than they did yesterday, and to spend more time tomorrow than they do today. That's the goal of every algorithm. If you were on Facebook 20 hours a day, Facebook would be trying to get you to use it 21 hours tomorrow. 

JB mentioned in that thread comic books expanding his vocabulary. And I still remember reading the story in one of Next Men's AFATH about a 1960's tv show depicting the smartest kid in school being revealed to have learned his science knowledge from - gasp! the scandal! - comic books. (Was that the Mary Tyler Moore Show, maybe?)

When I was a kid in middle school, I really got into comics. I still have the memory of a school bully attempting to intimidate me, and while the specifics have been lost in my memory, I said something to him using such a complicated vocabulary that all he was able to do was stare at me for about five seconds before simply turning around and walking away. 

Today's kids - at least the ones I teach, in what technically would qualify as an "inner city school" in Toronto - really are different from before the smartphone era. And it's "different" in a way I equate with scary. The negative impacts of things like being always on devices, having unregulated access to apps like TikTok/Instagram/YouTube, the way they use AI as their personal mental health counsellors ("I asked Chat about my anxiety and I'm trying a new thing to help with it now..."), kids these days don't leave me feeling super optimistic for a future generation fixing the shitshow we've made for them. 

What are your experiences? Do you see evidence that I'm wrong? If so, I'd love to hear about it!


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JB mentioned in that thread comic books expanding his vocabulary. And I still remember reading the story in one of Next Men's AFATH about a 1950's tv show depicting the smartest kid in school being revealed to have learned his science knowledge from - gasp! the scandal! - comic books. (Was that the Mary Tyler Moore Show, maybe?)

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THE PATTY DUKE SHOW. Broke my early teens heart, since I had a huge crush on “Cousin Cathy”.

On topic, though, I have been appalled over the years by the “parenting” practices of some of my friends. Basically Liberty Hall. No guidance at all. And one of those kids grew up to become a literal murderer! He died in prison earlier this year, aged 51. (Extreme example, I know.)

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Posted: 20 September 2026 at 1:35pm | IP Logged | 3 post reply

I’ve had students with all manner of problems. Drug use in middle school and worse. No impulse control. Prone to fits of unpredictable violence, or destructive behaviour. Some have had very obvious mental illnesses, so I’m not talking about them, especially because their parents were doing their best to make sense of something nobody is prepared for. But every time I’ve ever, ever had a severely behavioural student, when I met the parents, I understood why. Every single time. 

And I want to be fair in what I’m saying. I’ve worked with a lot of kids, the number of which would represent a fraction of the 350,000+ students who have moved through our education system in the last 16 years. There must be many exceptions to my experience. But it’s simply true in what I’ve seen that there are a lot of really good people who had kids but were never equipped to raise them, and it shows.


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I have noticed this last 15 years since smart phones
became prevalent that a lot of children are pushed along
in the pushchairs with the parent holiding a phone in one
hand and all their attention on the phone, no interaction
with the child and no thought as to what dangers they are
pushing the child towards until the last minute. The
screen is used as a baby sitter/pacifier for children
too. I witness many teenagers stop at a crossing never
lifting their eyes from their phone and crossing when
they hear the signal, not looking to see if traffic has
stopped, which worries me.
The kids born in the last 15-20 years are guinea pigs, we
don't yet know how their brains will be changed as they
reach adulthood living a life online, and being parented
by screen addicted parents.
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Ah kids.
How much is their fault?
I know of kids that were watching horror movies at age 3
Kids have access to technology - both hardware and software that we could
only dream of
Algorithms target their negative feelings and promote the things that cause
those feelings at periods of their lives before they have learned how to cope
with those feelings
They have access to vehicles that travel at high speeds without any training
such as road safety, the impact their antics have on others or how quickly
an error in judgment can lead to death at the speeds they can travel at
They are being told further education will mean a 10% increase in tax - for
life
There will be no pension when they are old
They will live with their parents or a bed sit that costs more than their
parent’s house each month
Their entire life has consisted of wars, economic crashes, political
fragmentation and increased nastiness.
Drug use is promoted as normal in all walks of life
Negative Sexual exposure occurs from an early age, in degrees we could
only imagine, with a level of violence and pressure associated that we did
not experience.

They don’t stand a chance.
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I agree with a lot of that, James, but kids seeing horror movies has been something I've noticed since I was a kid, and I am 55 now.  I remember a girl telling me she saw "Halloween" when I was in second grade.  Now you know how kids tell stories, but about 20+ years later, I saw "Halloween" and as she had described the opening scene, I remember saying to myself, "Oh my god, she really saw that when she was seven!" Not to mention all the kids who watched slashers.  I knew quite a few.  

Lots of kids I know saw "Alien" in 1979.   My first movie was "Bambi," and a friend's first film was "JAWS."  And not mention all the kids who streaming in to see "Poltergeist" in 1982 because it was PG.  
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Posted: 21 September 2026 at 2:30pm | IP Logged | 7 post reply

Just raise Dogs & Cats...much easier and 100x the reward . 
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Posted: 21 September 2026 at 2:39pm | IP Logged | 8 post reply

I work with ages 15-30 and have for 30 years.
The faces and names change but they are almost all basically the same.

In our industry (hospitality) it’s not a cliche to say “When you find a good
one, let them know and don’t let go.”
Hire 50 teens, you may get one that is an actual human being capable of a
forward thinking conversation. Promote immediately and through that
action tell the others they need to step it up.

We have a legacy hire whose older sister was one of the more exemplary
examples of Gen Z. Kim’s willingness to learn and succeed far outshined
people 5 to 10 years her senior. She left for her Freshman year of college in
August and the younger sister has arrived on the scene. Oboy. What a
difference. We may actually have to let her go. Nothing is given. I’m sure
she’s smart and may excel in another field but she has rubbed everyone the
wrong way with her attitude.

Gotta let kids be kids. Frontal cortex data or not, some just wake up earlier.
The rest won’t get any respect or advancement. Unless Mom and Dad come
from money.
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Posted: 21 September 2026 at 2:44pm | IP Logged | 9 post reply

Is the behavior of kids really getting worse? I know there are plenty of anecdotes, along with the bias mentioned at the start of the thread, that can color our perceptions.

I’m a Gen-Xer and the father of three kids in their early 20s. While I’m not bringing statistics to bear, my understanding is that drinking, drug use, teenage pregnancy, and youth violence have all continued to trend downward. Test scores may be another story, but subjectively, kids today seem smarter—but perhaps not necessarily wiser.

So, am I judging them through the lens of my own age and experience?

Maybe the better question is: What measures or outcomes should we actually want to see in the next generation, and how do we evaluate them fairly? Perhaps 60-second TikToks—which admittedly aren’t my cup of tea—are simply the medium of the future.

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While I’m not bringing statistics to bear, my understanding is that drinking, drug use, teenage pregnancy, and youth violence have all continued to trend downward. Test scores may be another story, but subjectively, kids today seem smarter—but perhaps not necessarily wiser.

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Those declines are coupled with an increase in teens relying on digital socialization and risk-aversion due to lack of experience being unsupervised. These kids aren’t making better decisions about drugs and sex and violence. They’re lacking opportunities to make bad decisions because they’re home online and not used to deciding things without input from their parents.

Gen Z does seem wiser about social justice and mental health issues, though. 
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Posted: 21 September 2026 at 4:33pm | IP Logged | 11 post reply

Andrew - behaviour? No, I don't think the behaviour of kids is getting worse. I think their critical thinking, inferring, curiosity, etc., is developing less in a lot of cases than even 15 years ago, because our culture has a screen addiction and we haven't done a great job protecting our children from the same problem. 
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