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Brian Miller
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Posted: 04 October 2025 at 6:51pm | IP Logged | 1 post reply

We had to put our Yorkie, Parker, down three weeks ago. We think she was
around 14 and she was at the point she couldn’t walk or stand very well with
her back legs. We took her to the vet for a quality of life visit and it was
determined she had some pretty significant nerve damage. So we decided
it was best for her if we went ahead said goodbye. I absolutely lost it. I knew
in my heart what was going to happen when we scheduled the visit but it
still devastated me. I miss her terribly. We got her and her sister, a mini
poodle named Snowball, at the same time and we had to say goodbye to
her last summer. There’s still a big hole from their leaving. The boy dogs,
Oliver and Eddie, now sometimes come to the couch when we’re watching
TV and lay where the girls used to lay. But it’s not the same. I told my wife
after these two are gone, I’m finished. I can’t go thru that any more.
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Posted: 04 October 2025 at 7:09pm | IP Logged | 2 post reply

Very sorry for your loss, Craig.
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Paul Wills
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Posted: 04 October 2025 at 9:16pm | IP Logged | 3 post reply

Brian, I agree. One thing a lot of people tend to ask after my doggie passed is if I'm getting another dog. I can't ever see putting myself through that kind of devastation again.
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Posted: 05 October 2025 at 12:05am | IP Logged | 4 post reply

My French Bulldog that I got with an ex-partner died 3 years ago, and it was heartbreaking. He was only 6, and was one of those dogs that couldn’t keep his nose out of anything and ate some poisonous berries in her back garden. It ended up we had to put him down rather than subject him to a slow and painful end. 

It was the right guy thing to do yet I’ll never forget looking in to his eyes before he passed.

It was a weird situation that even though we had been together and loved together for 4 years, when we split we still stayed friends and shared the dog between us. 
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Posted: 05 October 2025 at 7:02am | IP Logged | 5 post reply

So sorry for your loss Craig, a lot of people don't
understand the loss of a pet brings the same grief as the
loss of a human loved one. When previous dogs died, i
threw myself into work, and had to keep sneaking off to
the toilets for a cry. Am currently supporting my cousin
who lives a distance away after the loss of her beloved
dog Milly. She is very depressed.
Our current rescue dog, we have had nearly 7 years, and
as he was between 3 and 5 when we got him he's
potentially 12, he's got very grey in the last couple of
years but is still fit and active, but i know when the
time comes, it will break our hearts. I have had a
discussion with my wife that now were are in our 60's,
our next rescue dog may be our last.
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Craig Earl
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Posted: 05 October 2025 at 10:47am | IP Logged | 6 post reply

Thanks for the lovely comments, guys. 

I'm not the sort of person to make announcements on Facebook for this type of thing (don't use social media at all, actually). I remembered this thread and it felt a bit like therapy to mention it here, among like-minded people on the JBF.

I agree that there is generally a standard reaction for people to ask if you will get another dog (I don't blame them, it seems to be the go-to question). For me, it seems to trivialise the life of your beloved pet, as if they were simply a possession. We will not get another dog until I retire in around three years' time.

Ben's passing was heightened by the fact that he used to go to the office with me every day, sleeping beside my desk. That meant that the six people that I worked with, who all loved him, were affected too.
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Posted: 05 October 2025 at 4:21pm | IP Logged | 7 post reply

No worries Craig, it often helps to talk about such things
with thise who get it.
I never thought it trivialises the life of a deceased pet
to get another. I look at it as honouring the memory of
that pet by giving a new rescue dog the chance of a forever
home. Although i must admit, my wife has been the driving
force in starting the search for a new one each time.
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Posted: 06 October 2025 at 7:35pm | IP Logged | 8 post reply

My condolences to your family for this loss.

My wife has a habit of adopting dogs with extreme to severe medical needs so this happens in our life more than is comfortable and it's always an enormous loss because they are in our hearts so deeply.
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Harry Dounis
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Posted: 07 October 2025 at 12:53am | IP Logged | 9 post reply

  Sincerest condolences, I've had 6 dogs grace my life to date. They were all my best friends and their loss still hurts but having them in my life was a gift. 
  I very recently had to put down my 10 year old black cat Pete. a true tragedy as he developed a very invasive cancer from a canine rabies vaccine... That was truly painful and watching my 16 year old daughter breakdown as a result hurt even more. They are not possessions and cannot be replaced but Jr. the new black cat kitten that we gave a home to sure helps with the pain and I'm sure is better off vs being in the shelter...
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