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Bob Brown
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Posted: 13 July 2025 at 3:55pm | IP Logged | 1 post reply

Hey Matt - I'm coming up on 57, officially divorced as of November, though we unofficially but definitely "uncoupled" many years ago, so pretty much all of the actual trauma of separation happened a long time ago for me, and the divorce was mostly just a legal formality, though not without some financial anxieties.
Without knowing more about your circumstances, I would just echo what other people have already said - don't keep things bottled up inside; when you need to get stuff out, get it out - ideally to a friend who isn't going to judge you, but will just listen and be there for you. It seems like a lot because it is a lot, but you will get through this - just don't try to do it alone. 
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James Woodcock
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Posted: 13 July 2025 at 5:08pm | IP Logged | 2 post reply

Sorry to hear this Matt.
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Greg Scarborough
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Posted: 13 July 2025 at 5:17pm | IP Logged | 3 post reply

I was married in my late 20's and divorced in my early
30's. A bankruptcy followed shortly thereafter. It was the
most life-changing experience of my adult life. None of my
failures, before or since have been as magnificently awful
as that one.

But it does get better. Especially if you aren't afraid
to take a look at it, and try to learn something from it,
and use the experience to grow as a person.

I'm sorry you're having to go through it.

Namaste
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Evan S. Kurtz
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Posted: 13 July 2025 at 9:06pm | IP Logged | 4 post reply

I've always said that divorce is actually good news, because healthy marriages don't end in divorce, and we should all want and try to be as healthy and happy as we can be. The way I've heard it put before is that the three phases men tend to go through in divorce is "Sad, Mad, Glad" - and it'll take time and effort to get to the glad phase, but it's where you're headed. 

If you can, perhaps therapy or a men's group would be helpful in getting you to the "glad," Matt. I know it's not easy.
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