You can test fetal genetics.  Think what that would do with the fanatics.

First, I am in favor of gay men and women adopting. I've met many gay adoptive parents over the last couple of years and all of their children have seemed happy and well adjusted. One of Dylan's best friends (at the moment) is being raised by 2 women, one of whom is his biological mother and the other is her wife.

That said, I think it would be...limiting(?)...to say only Gay parents should raise Gay children, in the same way it would be limiting to say only Asian parents should raise Asian children, Black parents raise Black children or Latino parents raise Latino children, etc., etc.

Lord knows, I'm not the most culturally sensitive guy in the world, but I'm making it a point to expose him to and respect his Guatemalan roots. Will I be successful? I hope so. There are people who feel that no matter how "noble" my intentions are, Dylan will still be scarred (try googling "transracial abduction" some time). I hope they're wrong.

Edited by Marc Foxx on 14 July 2010 at 2:12pm

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Did somebody say that?

There seems to be some thinking here that Gay is something people BECOME -- as if it is learned behavior.

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That's always dumbfounded me.  My very straight father immersed me in male culture,  sports, fishing, hunting, Charles Bronson movies.  And it did nothing to make me attracted to girls.  Didn't budge me.  And we didn't have this fancy internet.  I'm not sure I knew what "gay" was until I was at least 11 or 12.  So I literally had nothing from which to learn.  But just like all you who started liking girls "automatically" when you hit a certain point, my attraction didn't need to be taught to me.  It's just there.

I do have plenty of nieces and nephews.  And they have never known me as anything but gay.  And you know what?  They just accept it.  It's completely normal to them.  If anything, it's the bigotry that's learned.

Same here. I did lots of plays (musical and otherwise) in high school
and majored in theatre in college. Took my share of ribbing for it, too.
From both straights and gays ("How are you not gay?").

I'm all for equality for gays in every area. Things seem to be changing
for the better in that regard. Very slowly, to be sure, but getting there.
I don't know who coined this saying but I like it: "We're not where we
should be but I'm glad we're not where we were."

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Sometimes I wonder. In the wild there is a definite survival advantage in fearing, and even killing, That Which is Not Us. Civilization should have bred that kind of unconscious fear/threat response out of us --- but I look at the world and wonder if we really have any right to think of ourselves as "civilized".

There seems to be some thinking here that Gay is something people BECOME -- as if it is learned behavior. According to everything I have read, it is genetic
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Possibly a bit of both. I know of a fair few instances where someone who had been in heterosexual relationships, went to prison and came out saying they were gay and started acting very effeminate.

Although to be fair, I would question whether these people were actually gay. In some instances they clearly seemed to have had some form of mental break in prison.