Thoughts?

Sorry, I had to reread this, I don't see why not. Proven pedophiles and junkies are the only ones who should never adopt, whatever the gender preference.

but it popped into my head that it is a pity there is not some way for Gay couples to adopt Gay children.

Sound a bit dangerous (for the kid) to me. I think the earlyest is, what, around 14-13 year old, for some maybe 12, that a child may get an idea that he (she) is different ?
And even that doesn't proove anything. At that age, feelings change and evolve*. Loving a boy doesn't make you gay. Some tryes a lot of things, before finding themself. What about "experimenting" ?

But what you suggest means :
"You're gay, so choose the gay line, and "forever" it will be the same."
It's a bit definitive to me.
Exactly the same as if a boy was to say : i will always love women all my life long and not change.
Oh, really ?

And it means that the kid will have to be able to spell it out, make his/ her own comming back at that age ??! And live with it, among "straigth" kids ?

Wow, i'd definitly not want to be him / her.

*Of course, that except people who get the same sexuality since that age, and never changed.

Being gay myself, I've often struggled with the idea of adopting.  Despite the fact that society's prejudices are unjustified and illogical, they nonetheless exist.  Like it or not, adopting a child would mean I would be subjecting him or her to some harrassment from other children and adults whose brains don't work.  Yes, I could try to instill a solid sense of self esteem in the kid that would make such harrassment ineffective.  But many people struggle enough growing up, without this additional target being painted on their backsides.  Having a child is supposed to be a selfless endeavor.  Would I really be selfless knowing the kind of assholes that are out there, ready to hurl insults and cruelty in the direction of a child adopted into my family? 

Your suggestion certainly is interesting.  Knowing the kid was going to have to look this prejudice in the eye eventually regardless would make the decision a lot easier in my mind at least.  The problem, of course, is determining that a child is gay.  Took a lot of people I know until they were in their 30s (or even beyond that) to figure it out!  Of course, there's always the acid test.  Play some showtunes and see which kids are tapping their feet or singing along.

Actually it's not funny at all. Just really, really sad.

Edited by William McCormick on 14 July 2010 at 9:45am