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Arc Carlton
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Moyer, I think you are right. I'm desperate and he is definitely not desperate. This whole thing reminds me of when I used to get obsessed with some guys ... I was in therapy back then and I remember myself boring my therapist session after session talking exactly about the same thing, the same guy, and explaining everything I was going through and sharing every possible detail. John is still dating that other guy, I don't know why it's so hard for me to accept that. Maybe it is because for the first time in years I'm friends with someone who is actually gay. Anyway, I think you're right. I'll try to give this a rest and maybe my head won't hurt so much. Thanks, Moyer.
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Ed Aycock
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Arc, you're not alone. I know that doesn't help, but Moyer is so right. When i first came out, I was SO desperate to get a boyfriend. It never did happen the way I thought it would (and what does?) and it's going to be painful for a while, and you may not see the bright horizon but it's there. Little by little, you'll feel better and things will look up and you'll be okay.
Just two months ago, I felt like I was going crazy (unrelated to relationships) and saw no future for myself. Thankfully, for me it was a change in meds that made the difference but now I can look back onto how I was just a few months ago and see that things can get better. Hang in there.
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Jodi Moisan
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"for the first time in years I'm friends with someone who is actually gay."
Arc I think this is a pretty great thing, it is a person you can spend enjoyable time with and be completely who you are. I have a college friend that has been in my life far longer then most guys I have dated. Seriously don't let life and the wonderful moments, pass you by because you are worrying about what may or may not happen.
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Moyer Hall
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Arc, I forget, how old are you again? I'm 34, and came out at the tender age of 20, and god I was SO desperate for a relationship it was crazy. I threw away a lot of opportunities to be involved with someone, that only a young person can get away with. I wish I could pass on my limited knowledge that would save you heartache and pain, but I think it's a lesson that everyone needs to learn. It's really funny now because I'm pretty much at the point where I don't even want a relationship now. I think some people are just built to be non-involved and I fit into that category. The trade-off is of course, when I'm old and really wanting a relationship, it will be too late to get someone! So, damned if I do, damned if I don't!
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Juan Jose Colin Arciniega
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Hi everyone.
I'm sorry. Believe me, i wanted to share them. But what i did not wanted to hapen happened. The a$$hole that hurted my friend Otto, revealing to all people he meets that he's HIV+, got hold of one picture and send it to all my Husband's contacts, making fun of us. He hate us because of our support for Otto, and he's angry because he wanted to make the Seminar to kick out Otto outing him as a HIV+, and instead, he got kicked out.
Sorry, i don't feel so good today!
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Arc Carlton
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Ed: Thank you for your words. I feel awful for talking constantly about John, it's like I'm monopolizing the thread, some people must be fed up by now. But your words make me feel like I'm not alone, and I appreciate that a lot. Things have been painful for me for years. I've been off meds since 2007 . But sometimes I still get depressed and I feel worst than ever. I wish I could go back to therapy or something. I'm way more vulnerable than I should be. Jodi: It's good to have friends. But John is returning to the US next year, so it's not like we are going to be friends forever or anything like that. Moyer: I'm 25. I came out to my best friend (the girl I was talking about a couple of pages ago, who has helped me going through all this John situation) when I was 22. And a year later I came out to most of my close friends. At least you had opportunities, even if you didn't take advantage of them. I haven't had those opportunities yet and when I'm depressed I feel like I'll never find anyone. Juan Jose: I'm sorry to hear about that situation. That guy attacking Otto sounds like a real angry, bitter person. Hope things get better.
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Moyer Hall
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You aren't monopolizing the thread Arc!Sorry about the jerkwad Juan Jose, what a bummer. I hope your day goes better.
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Juan Jose Colin Arciniega
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We are working on that!...Thanks for your support!
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Arc Carlton
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You aren't monopolizing the thread Arc! ____________________ Thank you , I'm a bit relieved now.
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Joakim Jahlmar
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Whew! Hadn't visited the thread in quite a while and – DARN IT – missed page 350.
Also, belated congrats to you and your spouse, Juan. Vis-a-vis the FB photo thing... I do believe you can actually control pretty heavily which people or friends are allowed to view your photos, and it should be possible to create a friend "category"/label which you could tag those in your friend's list you trust with not spreading things where you don't want them.
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Arc Carlton
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| Posted: 09 October 2009 at 4:17pm | IP Logged | 11
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Since I don't have a Facebook account I really don't know much about tags and stuff, but I still think Joakim's idea is a good one.
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Jodi Moisan
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Pretty excited we are going to see Toy Story 3D today, I am taking Jackson and his best friend.
Which will be nice to see a bright cheery movie, it rained for 2 days solid here in Indiana, I am hoping it won't rain today. It was so dark I swear it never felt like it changed days.
What's the weather like in your neck of the woods?
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