Remember the guy I'm talking about ? He's driving me crazy. I always do this. I always create a fantasy and I never want to accept the facts, and the facts are that the guys I find attractive are always straight. And that's the end of the story. Today I was in class with John (that's his name) and he was  wearing a pink t-shirt and of course I spent half the class looking at him and thinking maybe he is gay. And then I realized I was getting too obsessed with him and I was creating another fantasy. John is not gay and I really should stop talking to him but he's very nice, cheerful and he makes me laugh all the time. I don't need another friend that I'm  attracted to but at the same time sitting together in class is by far the best moment of my week. I honestly don't know what to do.

Jodi:

My mother is against gay people and against homosexuality as a concept. I guess you would call her a traditional woman. It's a tough life for me, I'm sure other gays have an easier life but I'm not that lucky.

And by the way, I got your message. I don't have a Facebook account. In fact I don't do IM, I don't use Twitter and I was never into MySpace or anything like that.

I'm very sorry to hear that your mother feels that way. My heart goes out to you. I don't think I had a single person react negatively to my coming out process, in that I was very fortunate.

Mind you, my mom wasn't thrilled; however, she kept that mostly to herself, expressed her love and support for me and the next day after she got home from work brought me a bag of condoms (which also showed her love for me as far as I was concerned).

Like Juan I am also understandably curious as to what your dad thinks of the 'gay thing".

One of my many hopes for you Arc, is that In time your mom will realize that the unconditional love between a mother and son SHOULD trump other things.