QUOTE: How much fucking older do I have to get then before this kicks in?

Al, those are my sentiments exactly!  It's very infuriating.  When someone calls me a "Nice Guy", that's basically the death kneel.

How much fucking older do I have to get then before this kicks in?

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Well Al it took me 34 years to figure it out!  So there is always time.

I was in a relationship with a woman that even now, fifteen years later, I remain utterly convinced was trying to get pregnant by her former boyfriend and hoping that I would stick around to start a family of our own.

So I just jerk off a lot.

Yep.  It's prevalent in the animal kingdom too, especially with species that were assumed to mate for life, until researchers kept a closer eye on the females.

Hey, I'm no saint.  I admit I'm a sucker for a gal with a broken heart, and I know exactly why.  I never took advantage, but I sure used to end up getting my shoulder cried on a lot.

What Kevin and Jesus are talking about was what was my wakeup call. All of a sudden I was getting hit on by single mothers, attractive, but they didn't seem into me. They wanted to date with an eye to getting serious, settling down and there was a part of me that was flattered.

The other part was ticked off, I was the nice guy? I was the guy there to take care of the bad boys' kids? I was the guy you settled down with but weren't really attracted to? What the hell? Me? Tall, blonde, strong, decent looking, smart, good job, good work ethic, creative, artistic, me? I was the one they wanted to settle for? Took me aback to say the least. And seeing a program on this, where it was said that women look for the strong, assertive jock type to have better children and wondering what I was doing wrong. I was a strong assertive jock type, how in the hell did I get stuck in that nice guy role?

That's when I decided to look like the man I thought I was, shave off my beard, cut my hair, get contacts, lose the bulky long sleeved shirts, and instead of trying to be a stereotypical nice guy I just decided to be who I was. And if people didn't like that guy? Well, so what? I liked that guy. I was that guy. I wanted to be that guy. That guy had a lot of fun.

It f'ing sucks. At least if I were a dog I'd get a belly rub for my efforts.

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I never get lucky so I know how you feel.

glad i'm gay and guys just want you for sex!