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Al Cook
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Does anyone believe that there is such a thing as a difference fundamental
enough it cannot be overcome in a relationship?
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Juan Jose Colin Arciniega
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You are right. Those problems comes from time to time, and love helps overcome those problems...
Family problems....when members of family doesn't accept your relationship, wants to control you, wants to share time with you both and maybe it's too much that the couple feels in need of some space...etc.
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Al Cook
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QUOTE:
You are right. Those problems comes from time to time, and love
helps overcome those problems... |
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So there's no difference so fundamental that a couple can't overcome it?
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Kevin Hagerman
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I'm sure there is, especially if the couple doesn't know each other as well as they should before becoming a couple.
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Juan Jose Colin Arciniega
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You know that that's not an easy answer. Many things are in play in a relationship. Love and Understanding, support and patience plays a important role facing those problems. It's what's in us that also helps us in those times...
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Geoff Gibson
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So there's no difference so fundamental that a couple can't overcome it?
There are a ton of differences that can't be repaired. Sometimes its something like loss of trust, sometimes its loss of love, other times its just people want very different things.
When we were first married I was working for a NY law firm making lots of money. And working like a dog -- at the office by 8:30 not getting home until after 10 most nights. It was something that really bothered my wife. If we were going to be married and have a family she didn't want to be/do it alone. I wanted those things, more than the professional goals I had in mind, so I changed, giving up a lot of money and lot of personal goals. But the important stuff we both wanted and we still want the same things. I don't regret it -- cause I love my wife -- but I sometimes wonder where I'd be now (professionally). I know I would not be as happy as I am with my wife and family.
Edited by Geoff Gibson on 11 March 2009 at 11:46am
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Michael Penn
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...but I sometimes wonder where I'd be now (professionally).
*****
Sigh!
Yes, indeed.....
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Donald Miller
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Al asked:
Does anyone believe that there is such a thing as a difference fundamental
enough it cannot be overcome in a relationship?
You're asking a really big question here. I really believe that love can overcome whatever is thrown at it, but that does not mean that it will be easy... Sometimes it's as simple as readjusting spending levels, and sometimes it's as big as readjusting your big plans, life goals if you will. My wife and I have talked quite a bit about this type of thing...
we decided that to stay together "for the kids", is foolhardy at best. You have to fight to stay together as a couple. Our marriage is the center of our family, and everything else branches off of that. My main tip is of course don't sweat the small stuff, and it's mostly small stuff.
What is it you think a relationship would not be able to weather? I find that it's usually communication that starts the breakdowns.
Don
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Al Cook
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I'm guessing there's a lot of things that a relationship would not be able to
weather. Infidelity; personality change/revealation (not-who-I-thought-
you-were syndrome); diametrically opposed viewpoints on any one of a
plethora of major issues from politics to having children; abuse; addiction...
The list goes on.
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Jodi Moisan
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OK I was going to make a funny comment about the movie "Caligula" because of Don's post on the last page concerning different forms of pleasing partners. But then you guys got all serious and thought provoking. Damn it sucks when I come late to the party.
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Geoff Gibson
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it sucks when I come late
Better than not coming at all. As we discussed on the previous page.
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Pedro Tavares
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eheheh how many cm are 2 inches?? nevermind.. I had a similar experience Moyer and it was a major turnoff. how can a guy that's almost 2m tall end up being so small? oh Well
This new topic is just what i needed to distract me. my kitty had surgery to remove her reproductive system because of a tumor and I'm away from home and can't give her some loving :(
D**k talk always helps get my mind off such worries :)
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