Posted: 21 June 2018 at 5:41pm | IP Logged | 2
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Time is always at a premium and relationships require time and attention. If one person in the relationship is willing to dedicate the primary portion of their's, they feel left out or foolish when the other does not seem to match that intensity. Prioritizing something over their time and attention is never going to go over well.
Scheduling time for both is the ideal solution, but difficult to achieve and maintain. Insisting that the other person understand the creative impulse and the time it requires means that you are now asking for their time, attention, and patience, with little promise of return it often seems to them. It's a little easier to justify time at the drawing board if you're already making money at it. Less so if you're not.
Kirby generally spent his day with the kids and being a family man, only to stay up all night working on pages. Not everyone has his stamina or ability.
Acting couples keep giving marriage a try because both seem to understand how much time is going be taken from them both by the demands of their careers. Unfortunately, life on the set is rife with hazards and opportunities to mis-step. That bizarre sense that "anything goes" when you're far from home and embroiled in the drama of a company of players is a real component of the acting world. When time for the couple does present itself, those who seize upon it and make the most of it have a better chance together than those who fill that time with additional projects.
Relationships take time and effort to maintain, as do creative endeavors. To have both, you have to take from each and often wind up with less than you'd like in the hopes that eventually both will grow and sustain you and your partner in ways that neither alone can do.
Real life is not easy. There often are choices that have to be made. I recommend being generous whenever you can and selfish only in those moments when you absolutely must. Hopefully your attempts at give-and-take will be recognized and reciprocated.
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